Be willing to have the truth, your truth Lovingly blossom. Keep your eyes attune to the whispers on the wind listening to what’s required for your soul’s growth and allow love’s vision to reveal and expand the truth.
“How many more times is (fill in the blank and it isn’t pretty) going to happen before I stand up for myself. Before I tell the truth. How many more times will a pattern repeat until I am ready to do things differently?” As Will Rogers said “don’t do the same thing and expect a different result. Do things differently. Get different results.”
My own personal Codependent people pleasing trauma played itself out in so many ways that I never understood consciously. To leave or not to leave. To act or not to act. To be or not to be. To do or not to do is an everyday mental pretzel twister. In the end it is an act of faithfulness. To say I was very in touch with my Codependent self doesn’t do it justice. It was so ingrained I didn’t even know what codependent meant. I was deluded into thinking I had a handle everything. When I finally attended an Al Anon meeting I saw clearly what my issue was in spades….
“How many more animals are going to need to die before I’m ready to speak my truth.”
A young woman cried as she told the story of leaving her beloved cat with her drug addict Sister to take care of when she went away for a business trip only to return to find the cat run over by a car when her sister inadvertently had left the front door open.
In each story in the circle, worse, more destructive, than the last of letting, enabling, unfortunate behavior. As each person spoke, I heard… “Here’s what that person needs to do.” “If they try this they will solve that.” “They should call so and so…” My face got hot. Wait a minute. I didn’t know these people, on what planet did I think I could help them, know what is best for them.
“Oh. My. Goodness.”
That is my addiction. Allowing a lie to play out and practicing the same behavior hoping things would change. It isn’t a surprise they never did.
Codependency is a big cosmic joke to remind you who you truly are. When you feel the pull it’s a reminder to own the truth. To paraphrase Judith Orloff ‘stop the codependent reaction and action and fully own your intuition.’ Stop being co-dependent. Stop thinking if the other person is okay, then I will be okay. Stop thinking if I help them then they will help me. Stop.
That is what co-dependency is, an empathic feeling that you know something will help another person and they are not whole unique individuals with all the tools to take care of themselves. Everyone’s internal guidance system is designed to provide the answer appropriate to the individuals circumstance
Do yourself and your community a favor and break the chains of any fear or addiction and remember the truth about who you are and what Love is and means.
Practice patience in your heart, take a beat and let love wash through the situation in front of you and wait for it to transform. Watch the miracle unfold as love changes your vision. As ACIM says the truth is in claiming the life you want, stepping into it and through the Dante’s hell of patterns that are not changing.
Flip the switch, ignite the field, walk into the light of truth. As a friend of mine likes to say “don’t settle for the mild river of misery.” Become a tuning device allowing love to flow through you and radiate from you expanding outward without reserve as you take the next step designed for your greatest good. Hold a vision for yourself that resonates to your bones that fills each moment with safety and gentle cherishing of your mission and purpose and the deepest plan for your life.
Martin Luther King Jr. stated your life begins to end on the day you stop talking about the things that matter most. Let go of the lies in your beliefs that are holding you hostage and live the truth. Talk about the life you want to inhabit as if your very life depended on it.
May you see with your heart and be able to recognize the truth in every situation you encounter with vision of the the heart made manifest in the presence of love.
In this life filled exercise in living in the truth standing in integrity Love will always break through.
With Infinite Love and Gratitude.
Today is DAY 51 of MEL’S LOVE LAND #NEXT100 LIVE THE TRUTH
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Take Mel’s Love Land Pledge!!
(Repeat after Me)
For the #Next100 Days I am going to consider the possibility there is another way….
(add whatever ‘feels right’ allow it to be your reality even if it is just for one moment, revel in the idea that there is another way to look at it and allow yourself the privilege of true sight beyond your perceptions because whatever follows ‘I will consider the possibility there is another way’ will be the direction that you set – make it count)